For many mamas, guilt is a constant companion. Working moms frequently experience guilt for spending too much time on work or, on the flip side, for focusing on kids at the expense of their goals. Sometimes moms even feel guilty about both simultaneously! If you’re a working mama who finds herself constantly battling guilt, you’re not alone. Here are three reminders for you when guilt starts creeping in.
You are allowed to have goals.
Moms are selfless by necessity. While selflessness is an incredible trait, selflessness is often equated with neglect. Sacrificing your time, money, and emotional bandwidth for your kids does not require you to neglect your own needs, wants, and goals. It’s possible to love and sacrifice for your children without ignoring your personal aspirations. It just requires some creativity! Don’t give up on yourself; your kids will benefit from watching you accomplish your dreams.
Being productive doesn’t have to keep you from being present.
Busy moms are tempted to believe the lie that, by focusing on business tasks, they’re ignoring their kids or spouse. It’s true that business needs have the potential to overcrowd your family time, but when kept in proper balance, working hard does not have to be at the expense of quality time with your family. When you’re working, be present. Focus on the tasks at hand. But, when you’re with your spouse or children, focus only on them. Put away your phone. Have fun! Your family won’t feel crowded out by your work if your time with them is genuine and intentional.
Asking for help isn’t failure.
Moms, you don’t have to do it all! Being honest about your time limitations and emotional limitations is not a weakness; it’s a strength. If you find yourself overwhelmed or overworked, ask for help! Speak to your boss or your spouse. Delegate tasks to others. Reach out to business leaders who are balancing their work life and personal life well and ask for advice. There’s no shame in admitting that you’re not self-sufficient (and none of us are!). Success isn’t going at it alone; success is asking for help when you need it so that you can win in the long term. You’ve got this, mama!
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